My Actual Love Language: Quality Time

I have joked before about love languages, but I actually do take them seriously.  If you were to ask me what my love language was I would tell you that I have three and that they are:
1. Quality Time
2. Sarcasm
3. Coffee

More than anything I yearn for coffee quality time with friends and family.  Ideally that quality time is spent over coffee and is doused in sarcasm, but ultimately is focused on those in that moment.  For me, quality time means the most to me when there is focused attention.  When I am able to put down the phone, turn off the tv and give my attention to someone else that I know is completely there and in the moment.

During my second summer at Pine Cove one of the guys that I was blessed to work with introduced me to the notion of quality time and having a small group of quality friends and relationships opposed to a bunch of mediocre relationships.  At first it was a foreign concept to me, but the more that I thought about it I realized that maybe not each of my relationships was that way, but it was certainly what I wanted in my relationships.  Don't get me wrong, I love people and love loving on people, but it is the quality time that I absolutely love.
Stonehenge - Summer 2014
It was that one conversation in the woods that forever changed the way that I looked at relationships and how I approached them.  It was certainly quality over quantity which was another foreign concept after growing up in a small town where you knew everyone.

I would say that in my relationships as of late quality time has proved to be more evident that ever before.  Be it in dating, making new friends, or friendships that have proved the test of time there is no longer a hesitation to hold anything back.  I can tend to be reserved, but how found a comfort in the beauty of quality time and a bit of vulnerability.

With sarcasm and coffee off the table, what is your love language?  
How do you express your language?

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